One thing that's kept me steady through all of this is a new grounding and centering technique I learned at the Gathering.  Very very calming, plus it helps me to figure out what to do, better than any divination device I've ever used.  It's nice to be able to just ask a question of myself, and know the answer.  I'd used the tree meditation primarily until now, and it really didn't give me the same kind of grounding; in other words, I wasn't really grounding before.  Now that I am, it's really making a difference.  

Go figure I make such huge advances in my spirituality right at the same time my marriage is foundering.  

and ps, if anyone from the Gathering is reading this, my scabs are finally healed!  My knees are still bruised, but at least that's it.  *grin*.