I was thinking about my failed marriage, and the people involved, and I realized I should clarify something to the women who are/were sleeping with my husband (and man, I can't wait till he's not that anymore!), or at least cheating with him emotionally if not physically.

I don't despise you for sleeping with my husband.  I'm not jealous that you have or had him.  Frankly, he's not worth it, but that's just my opinion.

I despise you for pretending to be my friend.  I despise you for lying to me.  I despise you for not having the backbone to stop being my friend before you slept/romanced with him.  You lied to me, you used charm and false compassion to soothe me and connvince me to open my heart when you knew you were only using me to get closer to him.

You, both, all, whatever, you are scum, you are false, you are a liar and a cheat.  In that you match my husband, and I think you deserve each other.